4 minutes agoAuthor: Shivakant Shukla
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Question- I am from Bengaluru. My 7 -year -old daughter has recently started insisting on things like lipstick, nail polish and fancy hair clip. Initially I felt that she just wanted to play. But when I asked her, she told that she has seen children’s makeup videos on YouTube and some of her friends also come to school with makeup. In the matter, he also pointed to me that ‘If you go somewhere, you go with makeup’. So she also wants to go to school daily with makeup.
I do not understand whether it is his innocent curiosity or a sign of early thinking due to social pressure. I want my daughter to adopt her natural beauty and confidence. How can I explain it? Please help me
Expert: Dr. Amita Shringi, Psychologist, Family and Child Counselor, Jaipur
answer- You have asked this question at the right time. The way you not just an innocent stubbornness of the baby, but also understood the social influence and thinking hidden behind her, it is the hallmark of a conscious and sensitive parent.
Actually, at this age, children abjarb the environment around their surroundings very fast. At the same time, children are growing up in the world of YouTube and social media nowadays, where they are constantly seeing content related to makeup, fashion and glamor. It directly affects their thinking, likes, dislikes and self images.
However, instead of scolding or stopping the girl at such a time, it is very important to give the right direction with love, patience and wisely. So that he can grow up with confidence. For this, first of all understand what is more effect on the girl.
From the points given in the above graphic, you must have understood what has been affected by the girl. Many times, makeup and looks are given more importance even in home environment, due to which children start ignoring their natural beauty and confidence. Take care of some things to protect the child from this.
Praise the real beauty of the child
Children are often supplemented when they wear good clothes or look ready. Like ‘you look very beautiful today’. This gradually starts to believe that looking good is the easiest way to get praise.
To change this thinking, it is necessary that you praise the child’s smile, the curiosity to ask her questions, the feeling of helping others or honesty. Such complexes remove the girl from the appearance and connect with the goodness inside her. This makes the girl understand that her value is determined by her clothes, makeup or hair clip, but her behavior and thinking. So praise the girl on all the good works. Give him the assurance that ‘you are the same, the most special.’
Decide the limits of viewing digital content
It is not possible to keep children completely away from the screen. But what and how long to be seen, we can definitely control it. When young children see YouTube or Instagram reels, they accept everything shown in it as true. So show them kids-friendly, edge-apropriet content. Tie screen time in a 30–45 minute limit and give a break in the middle. When he sees something new, sit together and ask, ‘What did you like it?’
If he is being impressed by a video, tell him his truth. Like ‘it is shooting and acting, this does not happen every day in real life.’ With this, the child will learn to think with logic.
Change her role model
Children’s thinking and self-image depends to a great extent on which characters they are growing up. Nowadays YouTube influencers, kids stars or glamor -filled characters are becoming their new ‘role model’, which mostly focus on looks, makeup and style.
The role of parents becomes even more important in such an environment. It is important that you connect your child with a role model that is not just beautiful in appearance, but also intelligent, confident, sensitive and brave. For example, Malala can show stories, biographies or documents of celebrities like Yusufzai, Kalpana Chawla, Mary Kom to the baby girl. This will make them know about the real beauty.
Make yourself an example
If the mother talks about herself all the time, like ‘thick feeling’, ‘not bunny’, ‘not put cream’, then the message goes to the child’s mind that beauty is the most important thing. She starts believing that looking good is the biggest identity of being a woman. This thing inadvertently connects his self -value with looks.
At the same time, Papa often praises the beauty of the mother only when she is decorated in the house, then the definition of beauty for the girl is even more limited. Therefore, it is important that the parents should be filled with confidence and balance in front of the child.
Tell him that everything has an age
Children need everything more immediately. But parents should teach them that everything has its own right time. When the girl repeatedly says that ‘I also want lipstick’, instead of scolding or refusing her, explain it. Like ‘Look, the small baby in our house does not go to school, isn’t it? But you go. Because the age of going to school is yours, not her. Similarly, some things are of when we grow a little more. ‘
In the end, I will say that 5-8-year-old children learn everything only after seeing the environment around them. If they are praised only for their appearance every time, then they start to believe that looking beautiful is the most important. But if we praise his thinking, understanding, behavior and sensitivity, then he will learn that the real beauty is not out, not inside. Therefore, it is the responsibility of the parents to give the child a healthy environment.
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