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Question: I am from New Delhi. My son is 15 years old. He studies in ninth grade. He is quite good and calm and simple in reading since childhood. But his behavior has changed a lot for the last few months. He has become irritable, without a matter of annoyance and does not remain as happy as before.
A few days ago I found a packet of cigarettes from her school bag. At first I could not believe it. But later the suspicion of some of his things and friend circle deepened.
When I asked directly, first he refused. But then he agreed that he started smoking cigarettes for fun with some of his friends. He also said that now he has become habitual and there is restlessness without drinking.
I was surprised to hear this. I do not understand to scold him, do strictness or talk as friends. I want him to come out of it wisely, not fear or gilt. Please guide me.
Expert: Dr. Amita Shringi, Psychologist, Family and Child Counselor, Jaipur
answer: I can understand your concern. It is very disturbing for any parent to know that his minor son has come under the grip of some intoxication.
However, you think that he has to get out of this situation, not with fear or punishment, but with understanding and cooperation. But to deal with this problem, first of all it is important to understand how the child got cigarette addiction?
Actually, at the age of 15, children are looking for their identity. In such a situation, they take such decisions many times in an attempt to look ‘big’ and ‘cool’, which are harmful for them. At this age, friends have the highest influence.
In such a situation, many times they are caught in drugs due to bad company. Apart from this, there can be many other reasons for drug addiction in teen age children.
How to protect teenager from drug addiction
You did not say that none of the parents smoke or both cigarettes. If this is the case, then the first and important step is to curb your habit yourself because the children who see it repeat. Never smoke cigarettes especially in front of the child.
As you told that he becomes restless when he does not get cigarettes. This is an indication that he is addicted to it. In such a situation, understanding, patience and correct strategy is needed to deal with it.
Your son is currently fighting an internal battle, where he himself does not even want him to be in this addiction. But his body is repeatedly pulling him towards that. At such a time, instead of scolding him, he should become his ‘safe zone’ so that he can talk openly and hide anything.
Remember one thing that no drug addiction is one day’s work. But if just one step is taken every day in the right direction, then it is not impossible. Keep some things in mind for this.
Do not make these mistakes
Often when parents first get to know that their child is in the grip of some intoxication, they get shocked, hurt and angry. Many parents get angry and scold, embarrass and even beat and beat the child. But doing so leads the child to more hiding, fear and rebellion instead of solving the problem.
Keep in mind that if the child is afraid, the truth will not speak. If he does not tell the truth, then you will never reach the root of his addiction. If you judge him or embarrass him, he will not understand you, it will start to understand the danger. This is the time when he needs your understanding, restraint and support. Therefore, during this time some mistakes should not be made at all.
Explain the disadvantage of intoxication to teen edge children in this way
At the age of 15, the child’s body and brain develops rapidly. At this time, if they fall into cigarette or other addiction, it can have serious consequences. Cigarette slows down the growth of the lungs, weakening energy, stamina and sports performance.
Nicotine hormines the Happy Hormone dopamine present in the brain. The result is that without cigarette, the child starts feeling restless, anger and mood swings. Gradually this habit can give rise to depression and anxiety, which is extremely dangerous in adolescence.
In such a situation, parents should tell the child about the loss of intoxication by giving an example of video, documentary or any real event. Real stories have a profound impact on children and help them understand.
Focus on the expenses and money habits of the teen edge children
Often parents start paying the child daily in pampering. Initially it seems normal. But gradually this habit makes them accustomed to spending unnecessary. Many times this habit can lead the child to intoxicated.
When their needs are not met due to lack of money, they start falling prey to depression and adopt wrong habits like theft. Therefore, parents should monitor the expenses of children and they should explain the right importance of money.
In the end, I will say that it is necessary to make the teen age child who has been caught by the intoxication that he is not alone in this fight. Explain to him that you are with him, not against him. Make a small and easy plan by sitting with him. Praise his every small victory, boost his confidence. Believe me, when the child feels that his parents are standing with him, he also musters the courage to fight himself.
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